In an overcrowded, stess-inducing, crazy world, where does one find solace and relief?
Modern “civilized” humans are no longer naturally conditioned to spend time just thinking, or devoting sacred time for turning within. It can be easier to work with a therapist, take a pill, another drink, or just chin-up-it and perc along hoping things will get better on their own, as though time alone is a restorative curative for what ails one.
There is another way to grab back some sanity and self-discover what is really going on underneath the stress and consequences of this modern, hectic life: journaling. I’m not talking about keeping a diary, although it can be that if that is what you need, nor is this just expanding on your day planner by tracking what you did or who you saw, although it can hold some of that as well. I’m referring to the frequent (if not daily) habit of writing in a journal or notebook and capturing your inner thoughts, true feelings, and surfacing hidden or suppressed emotions. This method is an excellent path to take on the way to growing your soul and nurturing your spirit.
Journaling can take many forms: by keyboard, keypad, handwriting, audio recording, or any method that works for you to motivate and keep you writing. Those who start fresh will likely notice their journals in the beginning are mostly daily what-I-did captures of things in a journalistic, recorded way … at first. Over time and through a repetitive, daily writing habit, you will likely discover thoughts coming through your fingers unexpectedly, revealing emotions and true feelings about something that has been bothering you. It is not uncommon to surface something old or long-buried under the modeled behaviours and trained thinking we all grew up with. The consistency of daily (or at least frequent) writing coaxes out those bits to resolve that will be balm for your soul and elixirs for your spirit.
Whether you are a veteran journaler or just beginning, here are some approaches and methods to try out. No one way is better than another, and this list is by no means all forms possible: think of it as a starting menu to mentally dine from and eat experimentally. What you write about is up to you and my best suggestion for whichever method or approach you try is to just keep the pen, pencil, or fingers moving and see what happens.
- Morning pages – First thing each morning, write for X minutes or X pages non-stop, and keep the writing instrument/or fingers constantly moving. 15 minutes or two-to-three pages is a great start. This method is excellent for a mental dumping of whatever has bubbled up in your consciousness (or sub-consciousness) overnight.
- Timed journaling – Similar to morning pages, but instead establish a duration (15- or 20-minutes is good) to write about whatever comes to mind. Keep your thoughts going, but not necessarily with a constant moving of pen or fingers. Intent is for more focus on capturing thoughts or events in whole rather than a mind-dump as with morning pages. Works well any time of the day, and a variant late at night can be beneficial for reflecting back on the day’s events and thoughts.
- Journal prompts – Like guided meditation, this method is worked via a specific prompt to keep you writing and thinking along the prompt’s topic or question, as opposed to whatever comes to mind. The internet is bulging with writing/journaling prompt suggestions, so toss a search phrase out in Google and you will be overwhelmed by options.
- Journal challenges – Best one I know of (and use myself) is the organized NaJoWriMo, a cousin to the famed annual November novel-writing challenge. Check out najowrimo.org for the next monthly challenge to join (I believe Bakari runs them two-three times per year). You can also purchase a month-long daily prompt from Bakari focuses on the challenge’s topic (I did just that for April and loving the guiding prompts!).
- Trigger word – Think of a concept that you struggle with: commitment, sustainability, participation, activism, doing art, doing creative things, exercising, etc., etc. – could be anything. Then spend a timed effort (or even free-form) writing about that concept: how you feel, how it makes you feel, your barriers/desires/wants/needs, etc. This method can be quite powerful and surprisingly emotional if you let yourself get into it, but then, that’s the growing/nurturing you may truly need!
- Self interview – Useful for working through issues you are blocking or resistant to talk about at a deep level, the self interview consists simply (but powerfully) of emulating a journalist by asking yourself questions interview-style. Each answer then leads to a follow-up question that leads to another and so forth. This method can be both fun and a bit challenging, depending on where you want to take it and what surfaces in the process.
There are many more targeted uses for journaling, but one or more of the above methods should help you on your way to growing your soul while nurturing your spirit!
Have success, challenges, or failures with any of these? Let me know in the comments, where I would also love to hear about other ways you use journaling along your life’s path.
In a recent celebrated court case, the judge wrote “For want of a comma, we have this case.” The suit was between some Maine dairy drivers and their company, and the court sided with the drivers based on the absence of the beloved Oxford comma. While it’s not headline news, it’s an interesting win for the side that uses commas correctly. Read about it here.
Ever since I’ve cared about writing, I’ve seen the logic and wisdom of the Oxford (or serial) comma used in a sentence’s list of items to CLEARLY signal the writer’s intent. Yet, among grammar nerds, this little curly cousin to the period continues to instill polarized opinions.
At work, I am required to go by AP Style for externally shared content, which states (in must cases) don’t use an Oxford comma, although their rule explanation does allow it in complex lists. I think by then you’ve reached independent clause territory in many cases where Mr. Semicolon needs to make an appearance. Internal documents I put the comma back in, corporate rebel that I am! No, not really an anarchist, just want my meaning and intent to be clear.
I have tried to explore the reason and logic (assuming there is some) behind the Oxford comma’s absence, but the answers do not fully make sense to me. Here’s the current explanation from AP Stylebook:
“Commas in a series are for clarity and prevention of ambiguities. In a simple series, a comma before the last item isn’t essential for clarity, so AP Style doesn’t use a comma in that instance. In series with more complexity, a comma may be needed for clarity, so AP Style allows a comma before the last item in such cases.”
I love their simple series excuse. I now offer these simple list examples which show a lot of ambiguity not to mention confusion when the Oxford comma is MIA:
“This book is dedicated to my parents, Ayn Rand and God”
“She took a photograph of her parents, the president and the vice president.”
To be fair, it all comes down to clear meaning and a little rewriting can often clear up confusion and avoid the comma issue. An Oxford comma isn’t always needed, but I prefer it in most cases. Why confuse the reader when it’s easily avoidable?
Every habit has, at its root, an obsessive need to ingrain itself into our days and lives. Some habits are needed for health and longevity, like stop smoking or eating healthy, while others are more like wearing comfy clothes: we don’t know we need those, but we really do!
Inspired by one of the few podcasts I listen to (Portfolio Life by Jeff Goins), I’m working on embedding a new daily writing habit: writing 500 words a day, every day, all months, all year long. Always.
Why just 500 words? Surprisingly, part of the magic is it’s not a threatening goal to reach, and for those time-challenged not difficult to work in 10–20 minutes to hit the daily goal.
What I’m finding with this approach is I’m dumping less garbage on the page knowing there’s that limit and I need to tell a complete story each time. Part of the modern writer’s bane is how easy it is to fast-type-like-crazy thinking quantity will distill down to quality like properly ground coffee into your cup of anticipated delight.
Writers should know (and if they don’t, they do now!) that improvement only comes through practice. Waiting for inspiration to appear or a beloved block of free time to open up, or even waiting for that isolated cabin with the roaring fire to seriously write something good are all a fool’s game. The only path to writing better is through writing frequently and consistently, without fail.
I’m only in a few weeks for this new practice (which I’m dubbing .5kd) but I’m seeing a couple of some interesting insights. First, 500 words for a fast typist is about 10+ minutes of work, a duration that does not exact scream “practicing writer.” Knowing that I have that ceiling to hit, I’ve found I slow down and think between lines and paragraphs. My mind seems to be organizing and structuring my 500 word piece as I’m working, a practice that wasn’t formerlly there in the old get-down-as-much-as-you-can first effort. Second, I feel more purposeful in telling a story than merely racing to the end of a first draft so I can begin the real task of weaving thoughts and words coherently together in the requisite second draft.
I’m sensing that the overal result of this approach is going to put me at least one draft (maybe two!) ahead of the old ways, and increase my skills faster and better through this process. It’s too early to tell if all that is true, but it feels like the trend.
At 500 words, one can fit this in even the busiest of days without too much effort. For those of us (raising my hand high) who have found their best creative flow occurs early in the morning, achieving a 15–20 minute goal each day versus the old one hour or more commitment is much easier. And if it’s easier, the habit will stick.
I’ve tracked David Seah’s stuff for years, and his work tends to be highly useful. He developed a word count calendar for NaNoWriMo and has now made one for a full year. If you’re trying to track a writing goal of x words/day, this is a time-saver sheet you should grab. Check it out here.