> “It’s not so much that we’re afraid of change or so in love with the old ways, but it’s that place in between that we fear…It’s like being between trapezes. It’s Linus when his blanket is in the dryer. There’s nothing to hold on to.” – Marilyn Ferguson
Got a couple of fins for a sawbuck? That kind of change we deal with easily; but change as a disrupter in our daily lives is not quite so simple. Yet change is as constant in our existence as the breaths we take and the mists they make upon exit.
Some delight in change and live well in that perpetual high of constant motion, while others are emotionally ripped asunder every time change disrupts their placid lives and well-wished plans. Change is with us every moment of our lives, from the constancy of molecular motions to human decisions to disruptions from outside our periphery. Change is life; life is change.
We all have moments in our lives we wish could go on forever in perpetual joy. But that is not the human way, even though those acme moments seem like there could be nothing better. While death awaits all of us in due time as the final change, we spend our moments up to that time trying to coax change for our better. Change follows us like a shadow our whole lives; ever present, ever active. Those that accept and work with change tend to prosper more than those who fight.
When I think about change, I often wonder…am I changing away from or changing towards something? Like the opening quote stated, the only moment of fear in the process is during that miniscule moment in between. Whether we’re driven to change by perspiration (hard work; positive; towards something) or desperation (drastic; negative; away from something) doesn’t really matter as long as the intent is to better ourselves. A change for the better may set our course into uncharted waters with no guarantees, but at least that direction offers a horizon of possibilities. The trick with change is not to look too far ahead and thus completely miss grabbing the trapeze bar.
> “We cannot become what we need to be by remaining what we are.” – Max Depree